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Inter Community Marriage Discussion - पहाडी नॉन पहाडी वैवाहिक सर्वेक्षण
एम.एस. मेहता /M S Mehta 9910532720:
Thanks Pratap Ji,
My views on this issue are also the same. I have seen in families in Delhi where some cultural gap is apparently seen.
Kahte hai Shaadi or Makaan khareedne ke bujurgo ki raay lenee chaiye!
--- Quote from: Pratap Mehta on April 10, 2009, 05:52:22 PM ---मेहता जी नान Uttarakhandi marriage का आजकल हमारे पहारी नवयुवको गहरा असर देखने को मिल रहा है। कुछ दिन पहले एक शादी मे लुधियाना गया था जिसमे लड्का गडवाली और लडकी पजाबी थी। सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए। इस बारे मे मै ज्यादा नही बोलुगा, हमारे बुज्रगो ने जो रीत बनाई है वो बहुत सोच समझ कर बनाई है। मै एसे मामले आब तक दिल्ली मे तीन देख चुका हू जिसमे मैने यह देखा नान Uttarakhandi Bride / Bridegroom, family मै adjust होने/करने मै problem होती है।
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Lalit Mohan Pandey:
In my views, if someone gets any proposal from non uttarakhandi community, there is nothing wrong going ahead with the proposal (unfortunately I am not that lucky, Ha ha ha.. just kidding). But one should remember that we uttarakhandi people do come from a rich culture, we have our own long-established traditional values, which we need to respect so its ok If one can make a balance between both the traditions(unlike the above example by Pratap bhai.. where he has mentioned that सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए), but just surrendering own values for marriage is not a good idea because you are bound to loose your own identity if you start losing cultural and traditional values.
एम.एस. मेहता /M S Mehta 9910532720:
Pandey JI,
I have also attended several marriage this in Delhi. One was non-pahadi (Pahadi Bridegroom + Punjab Bride). Though some ritual were performed in pahadi but mostly in Punjabi.
Second marriage was pahadi+pahadi. Where I shocked everything was in Punjabi. (pahadi Dulha + Pahadi Dulhan). When the bride came at stage, only Pujabi ritual songs were being played, there was a Chadni as is done in basically in Pujabi marriage. Then I asked my friends what is this yaar… He replied “Punjabikaran”..
I never against of any cultural norms since anybody has born and brought up in pahadi so he / she must follow the same social rules.
--- Quote from: Lalit Mohan Pandey on April 11, 2009, 12:46:02 PM ---In my views, if someone gets any proposal from non uttarakhandi community, there is nothing wrong going ahead with the proposal (unfortunately I am not that lucky, Ha ha ha.. just kidding). But one should remember that we uttarakhandi people do come from a rich culture, we have our own long-established traditional values, which we need to respect so its ok If one can make a balance between both the traditions(unlike the above example by Pratap bhai.. where he has mentioned that सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए), but just surrendering own values for marriage is not a good idea because you are bound to loose your own identity if you start losing cultural and traditional values.
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Lalit Mohan Pandey:
Mehta ji,
This brings a complete new aspect and subject in-front of all of us, “How to save our Tradition and Culture” If I say in other words “How to save Uttarakhandi Samaj”, Because of your second example I realized that it has nothing to do with marriage between Uttarakhandi Bride with Non-Uttarakhandi Groom or Non-Uttarakhandi Bride with Uttarakhandi Groom. Even if both are from Uttarakhand we tend to follow non uttarakhandi rituals (which is in a way shame for us). What I believe that If you are attracted to some rituals of other community do include that, but don’t forget to follow our rituals. Example jaise aajkal jaymala hoti hai, koe chahta hai to isko follow kar sakta hai , but it should not replace दुल्हर्ग, jo ki ek hamari bahut purani parampara hai.
Mehta ji Groups like Mera pahad etc have been doing lot of work to save our culture but I feel still lot more awareness needs to be spread among our people so that it gets accepted by people without any hesitation. I feel a sincere and lot more efforts will require to take this awareness amongst the people who are not internet users because the local groups which are formed by our people in there localities are not working towards this at all. I myself have seen programs conducts by these people and the whole show is run in the panjabi format / Panjabi songs with Bhagda etc etc.
--- Quote from: एम् एस मेहता /M S Mehta on April 11, 2009, 12:59:15 PM ---
Pandey JI,
I have also attended several marriage this in Delhi. One was non-pahadi (Pahadi Bridegroom + Punjab Bride). Though some ritual were performed in pahadi but mostly in Punjabi.
Second marriage was pahadi+pahadi. Where I shocked everything was in Punjabi. (pahadi Dulha + Pahadi Dulhan). When the bride came at stage, only Pujabi ritual songs were being played, there was a Chadni as is done in basically in Pujabi marriage. Then I asked my friends what is this yaar… He replied “Punjabikaran”..
I never against of any cultural norms since anybody has born and brought up in pahadi so he / she must follow the same social rules.
--- Quote from: Lalit Mohan Pandey on April 11, 2009, 12:46:02 PM ---In my views, if someone gets any proposal from non uttarakhandi community, there is nothing wrong going ahead with the proposal (unfortunately I am not that lucky, Ha ha ha.. just kidding). But one should remember that we uttarakhandi people do come from a rich culture, we have our own long-established traditional values, which we need to respect so its ok If one can make a balance between both the traditions(unlike the above example by Pratap bhai.. where he has mentioned that सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए), but just surrendering own values for marriage is not a good idea because you are bound to loose your own identity if you start losing cultural and traditional values.
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एम.एस. मेहता /M S Mehta 9910532720:
Pandey jil
I fully endorse you views on spreading our culture and awareness about it. But I firstly blame the parents specially who have migrated from Uttarkahand for not educating their children about their culture. The most importantly, no body wants to teach his / her children our languages which is somewhere making a gaps between new generation vs old generation. In one sentence, I would like to say that “present generation should always endevaour to serve the cultural values for next generation” which is somehow not being done.
Coming to main topic, though I am married, however, my personal views“ I would not go non-uttarakhandi marriage” after having been learnt lessons from other community.
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