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क्या उत्तराखंडी पहाडी नॉन पहाडी जैसे पंजाबी, गुजराती, राजस्थानी इत्यादि कम्युनिटी में शादी करना

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Author Topic: Inter Community Marriage Discussion - पहाडी नॉन पहाडी वैवाहिक सर्वेक्षण  (Read 18954 times)

एम.एस. मेहता /M S Mehta 9910532720

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UTTARAKHANDI WOULD U GO FOR INTER REGIONAL MARRIAGE


क्या उत्तराखंडी पहाडी नॉन पहाडी जैसे पंजाबी, गुजराती, राजस्थानी इत्यादि कम्युनिटी में शादी करना चाहेंगे !

Dosto,

As you are aware the pace of migration from Uttarakhand is still high even after formation of the State. It is expected that over 25-30 lacs uttarakhandi are putting up in Delhi, in mumbai also the figures is in lacs. Similarly in all metrocities a large of Uttarakhandi people are permanently settled. The population of Uttarakhand state as per 2001 Censes is not even 1 crore.

In metrocities, the inter caste marriage amongst the Uttarakhandi has subsequently increased. Though, some people search Uttarakhandi Bride / Bridegroom through matrimonial sites etc. However, there is other section of people who do not mind for other than Uttarakhandi for marriage.

Here we are conducting this Poll just to know that views of new generation about the Inter Regional Marriage.

We would request our members to cast your vote on Poll at the top and write a few words about your choice.

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M S Math  

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Mehta ji It is very difficult in Uttarakhand,Uttarakhand is the bigest follower of Castism,It has been seen from few year some Youngester did intercast marriage but these marriage are by influence of love or against perents, I think mutually perent never allow even we are discusing intercast marriage but it is very dificult to us that we are able to do it with our Childrens.

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Dayal ji,

What I feel is that love is a different issue where individuals have to make their parents agree.  In Delhi, I have seen our Uttarakhandi people are not opting for marriage other caste like Punjabi , Himanchali  etc etc.  My direct questions that if any body is going for arranged marriage and if a proposal from Non-uttarakhandi comes in that case will they go ahead or prefer to marry within the  Uttarakhand community only. 


Mehta ji It is very difficult in Uttarakhand,Uttarakhand is the bigest follower of Castism,It has been seen from few year some Youngester did intercast marriage but these marriage are by influence of love or against perents, I think mutually perent never allow even we are discusing intercast marriage but it is very dificult to us that we are able to do it with our Childrens.

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han logun ko intercommunal marriage se utana parhaj nahi hai Uttarakhandi panjabi se ya rajsthani se ya kisi aur state ki family se to shaadi kar lete hain ya koi aur state wala v kar lete hain par kya ek Brahaman thakur se ya seduelcast se shaadi karane main parhej nahi  rakhta hai.

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मेहता जी  नान Uttarakhandi marriage   का आजकल हमारे पहारी नवयुवको गहरा असर देखने को मिल रहा है। कुछ दिन पहले एक शादी मे लुधियाना गया था जिसमे लड्का गडवाली और लडकी पजाबी थी। सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए। इस बारे मे मै ज्यादा नही बोलुगा, हमारे बुज्रगो ने जो रीत बनाई है वो बहुत सोच समझ कर बनाई है। मै एसे मामले आब तक दिल्ली मे तीन देख चुका हू जिसमे मैने यह देखा नान Uttarakhandi Bride / Bridegroom, family मै adjust होने/करने मै problem होती है।   

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Thanks Pratap Ji,

My views on this issue are also the same. I have seen in families in Delhi where some cultural gap is apparently seen.

Kahte hai Shaadi or Makaan khareedne ke bujurgo ki raay lenee chaiye!

मेहता जी  नान Uttarakhandi marriage   का आजकल हमारे पहारी नवयुवको गहरा असर देखने को मिल रहा है। कुछ दिन पहले एक शादी मे लुधियाना गया था जिसमे लड्का गडवाली और लडकी पजाबी थी। सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए। इस बारे मे मै ज्यादा नही बोलुगा, हमारे बुज्रगो ने जो रीत बनाई है वो बहुत सोच समझ कर बनाई है। मै एसे मामले आब तक दिल्ली मे तीन देख चुका हू जिसमे मैने यह देखा नान Uttarakhandi Bride / Bridegroom, family मै adjust होने/करने मै problem होती है।   

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In my views, if someone gets any proposal from non uttarakhandi community, there is nothing wrong going ahead with the proposal (unfortunately I am not that lucky, Ha ha ha.. just kidding). But one should remember that we uttarakhandi people do come from a rich culture, we have our own long-established traditional values, which we need to respect so its ok If one can make a balance between both the traditions(unlike the above example by Pratap bhai.. where he has mentioned that सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए), but just surrendering own values for marriage is not a good idea because you are bound to loose your own identity if you start losing cultural and traditional values.   

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Pandey JI,

I have also attended several marriage this in Delhi. One was non-pahadi (Pahadi Bridegroom + Punjab Bride).  Though some ritual were performed in pahadi but mostly in Punjabi.

Second marriage was pahadi+pahadi. Where I shocked everything was in Punjabi. (pahadi Dulha + Pahadi Dulhan). When the bride came at stage, only Pujabi ritual songs were being played, there was a Chadni as is done in basically in Pujabi marriage. Then I asked my friends what is this yaar… He replied “Punjabikaran”..

I never against of any cultural norms since anybody has born and brought up in pahadi so he / she must follow the same social rules.

 


In my views, if someone gets any proposal from non uttarakhandi community, there is nothing wrong going ahead with the proposal (unfortunately I am not that lucky, Ha ha ha.. just kidding). But one should remember that we uttarakhandi people do come from a rich culture, we have our own long-established traditional values, which we need to respect so its ok If one can make a balance between both the traditions(unlike the above example by Pratap bhai.. where he has mentioned that सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए), but just surrendering own values for marriage is not a good idea because you are bound to loose your own identity if you start losing cultural and traditional values.   

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Mehta ji,

This brings a complete new aspect and subject in-front of all of us, “How to save our Tradition and Culture” If I say in other words “How to save Uttarakhandi Samaj”, Because of your second example I realized that it has nothing to do with marriage between Uttarakhandi Bride with Non-Uttarakhandi Groom or Non-Uttarakhandi Bride with Uttarakhandi Groom. Even if both are from Uttarakhand we tend to follow non uttarakhandi rituals (which is in a way shame for us). What I believe that If you are attracted to some rituals of other community do include that, but don’t forget to follow our rituals. Example jaise aajkal jaymala hoti hai, koe chahta hai to isko follow kar sakta hai , but it should not replace दुल्हर्ग, jo ki ek hamari bahut purani parampara hai.

Mehta ji Groups like Mera pahad etc have been doing lot of work to save our culture but I feel still lot more awareness needs to be spread among our people so that it gets accepted by people without any hesitation. I feel a sincere and lot more efforts will require to take this awareness amongst the people who are not internet users because the local groups which are formed by our people in there localities are not working towards this at all. I myself have seen programs conducts by these people and the whole show is run in the panjabi format / Panjabi songs with Bhagda etc etc.




Pandey JI,

I have also attended several marriage this in Delhi. One was non-pahadi (Pahadi Bridegroom + Punjab Bride).  Though some ritual were performed in pahadi but mostly in Punjabi.

Second marriage was pahadi+pahadi. Where I shocked everything was in Punjabi. (pahadi Dulha + Pahadi Dulhan). When the bride came at stage, only Pujabi ritual songs were being played, there was a Chadni as is done in basically in Pujabi marriage. Then I asked my friends what is this yaar… He replied “Punjabikaran”..

I never against of any cultural norms since anybody has born and brought up in pahadi so he / she must follow the same social rules.

 


In my views, if someone gets any proposal from non uttarakhandi community, there is nothing wrong going ahead with the proposal (unfortunately I am not that lucky, Ha ha ha.. just kidding). But one should remember that we uttarakhandi people do come from a rich culture, we have our own long-established traditional values, which we need to respect so its ok If one can make a balance between both the traditions(unlike the above example by Pratap bhai.. where he has mentioned that सारे रस्म पजाबी मे हुए), but just surrendering own values for marriage is not a good idea because you are bound to loose your own identity if you start losing cultural and traditional values.   

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Pandey jil

I fully endorse you views on spreading our culture and awareness about it. But I firstly blame the parents specially who have migrated from Uttarkahand for not educating their children about their culture. The most importantly, no body wants to teach his / her children our languages which is somewhere making a gaps between new generation vs old generation. In one sentence, I would like to say that “present generation should always endevaour to serve the cultural values for next generation” which is somehow not being done.

Coming to main topic, though I am married, however, my personal views“ I would not go non-uttarakhandi marriage” after having been learnt lessons from other community. 

 

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